To get what you want, you have to know what you want

For several weeks now, I have been asking the question: are there tried and true, timeless, unchanging principles that, if you understand and apply, success must follow? My answer is: yes! OK, so what are they? The first principle is: there is no such thing as a neutral thought. You are an infinitely creative being and what you have been given to create with is your mind. Every thought you have gets planted in the fertile soil of creativity and produces a result.

The second principle is: your emotions are the fuel that waters the soil. What I call happy, joyful, optimistic and abundant feelings are like putting fertilizer on the soil and what I call unhappy, angry, fearful and scarcity-based feelings are like putting acid on the soil.

If life is that simple, and I assure you it is, how come we're not all living the lives of our dreams? In previous blogs, I've focused on the problems. Now it's time to focus on what you can do, starting today, to play the games of life and business to win:

First and foremost, you must focus on what you want! The sad reality is that most people don't know what they want. They know what they don't want and they're usually pretty good at telling you about it. The problem is that if you focus on what you don't want, you'll get more of that. So you have to get clear about what you want.

Here's a great question I frequently ask my audiences when giving a speech: If I handed you a magic lantern and when you rubbed it, a genie popped out and asked you to tell him everything you want, for the rest of your life, in great detail, how many of you would know exactly what to tell the genie? Very few if any hands go up. And that's the problem, if you don't know what you want and don't focus on it, how can the friendly Universe deliver it?

Or, if people have some idea of what they do want, they're frustrated or angry that they don't have it. This happens a lot in the areas of money and relationships. Most people want more money and work hard to get it but when they seeothers having more, they feel angry or resentful. Or they see a job they want and someone else gets it, similar reaction. I've talked to so many single people who say they really want a relationship but first, they don't take the time to think about exactly what they want in a relationship, and second, they often have lots of reasons and excuses why that relationship is not available.

The problem is the second principle discussed above. All of those negative emotions are like a farmer pouring acid on his soil and wondering why the crops don't grow.

So, you have to focus on what you want. And you have to be willing to believe that you can have what you want. Look forward to receiving what you want with excitement and enthusiasm. I hate to keep reminding you what Albert Einstein said about how important it is to decide whether you live in a friendly or a hostile universe, but it's important. The Universe is indeed your friend and wants you to have what you want. It's your job to tell it so it can get to work.