To have what you want, you must believe you can

In last week’s post, I said I was going to share with you the essence of what The Roadmap to Success program teaches. And please be clear that there’s a difference between “the essence” and the whole story. If you find the essence of interest, you can access the whole story at http://www.unshackledleadership.com/the-roadmap-to-success-program.

I started with the single most important statement you would find in the owner’s manual: You were born with the exact same power to create as anyone else. There has never been anyone who had a greater power to create than you and there never will be anyone who will have a greater power to create than you. Again I assert that those are all true statements but hardly anyone believes them to be true, and you likely don’t either. And that is the number one reason why so few people have what they want.

I don’t know about you but I spend time during the week thinking about the things that I write and it occurred to me this week what a huge issue this is. If you look at the staggering statistics of homeless, hunger and poverty and the incredibly high number of people who can’t find a decent job and care for themselves or their families, it all comes back to the fact that people just don’t understand how powerful they are and how easily they could change their circumstances. If you’re reading this, you’re likely not homeless or without a job, but still, do you realize how easily you could change your circumstances?

Probably the biggest reason why you and others don’t believe what I’m saying here is that you have an ego, your primary mischief-maker. And if you’ve read previous issues of this blog, you should know that your ego tells you three things about you: you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy, and you’re not loved or lovable. The only difference between one human being and another is how loud is the conversation and how much do you listen to it? And for the vast majority of people, the conversation is loud and you listen.

Take the worthy part, for example. Because people don’t think they’re worthy, most have huge issues with their self esteem. Think about it: if you don’t think you’re as worthy as others, why in the world would you assert yourself to express your power to create. After all, you surely don’t deserve to have what others have. And so people don’t assert themselves and end up settling for whatever comes their way. Perhaps this explains why I have heard that 83% of the people who win the lottery lose all of the money within five years.

Now let’s take the not good enough part. This was the big issue for me. Because I grew up in a family where when I did what I was supposed to do I heard nothing and when I didn’t do what I was supposed to do I heard plenty, I’m clear my ego started to tell me quite early in life that I wasn’t very smart, my version of not good enough. So when I graduated engineering school, being an engineer clearly wasn’t an option because I didn’t think I was smart enough.

I ended up going to law school at night and working at the U.S. Patent Office during the day and four years later, graduated in the top 10% of my class. You would think I finally figured out I was smart. Yet my ego would have none of that and for the next 18 years, as I practiced as an intellectual property attorney, there was never a day that I didn’t say to myself: if my clients only knew how many smarter attorneys there are than me, I wouldn’t have a client. In hindsight, it doesn’t surprise me that I spent most of those 18 years struggling.

So do you want to have the life, career and business of your dreams? Do you want to embark boldly on The Roadmap to Success? If yes, you must learn to confront the ego for what it is and stop listening to its constant assertions that you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy, and you’re not loved or lovable. Figure out your personal version of those generalities and start telling yourself the opposite. There are some suggestions on how to do this in The Roadmap to Success Program, which you can access at at http://www.unshackledleadership.com/the-roadmap-to-success-program.

You are as powerful as anyone who has ever walked on the face of the planet. But your entry into this game depends on you believing that. Are you willing?

To be continued . . .