What's Holding You Back?

Do you ever think about doing something, then you don’t do it?  Do you ever say you’re going to do something, then you don’t do it?  What’s going on?  Do you start listening to that pesky voice in your head that says things to you that result in fear, worry, anxiety or doubt? 

Your thoughts are being taken over with ideas like:

-That won’t work, so why even try.

-What if I screw it up?

-I’m not smart enough, good enough, etc.

-What if…..

What’s that about? 

A popular acronym for FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real.  Another one is Failure Expected And Received.  Either way, your thoughts are creating havoc for you.  The thoughts and accompanying emotions of fear, worry, anxiety and doubt are what's holding you back. 

What can you do about it?

REFRAME, REFOCUS, REPOSITION

Take control of your thoughts rather than letting them controll you. 

REFRAME

Focus on something that is fearful to you. Let’s say you’re afraid of public speaking. In a quiet place, take a few deep breaths and write out a description of yourself being confident and empowered as you face and move through this fearful situation.   Now close your eyes and use our imagination to see yourself in front of the audience, calmly presenting your talk, even enjoying yourself.  The audience applauds.  You were successful!

REFOCUS

When you become aware that you’re feeling fearful, think about one of the FEAR acronyms I mentioned earlier as a way to intervene in your automatic fear response. Worry, anxiety and doubt are really sub categories of fear so these techniques apply to all of them.  Refocus by asking yourself:

-When I’m feeling _________ I am believing __________.

-What would I like to have happen in this situation? What is my desired result?

-What is my next step?  Listen and take action. 

REPOSITION

This is a simple technique that can slow down or break the state of emotions that are escalating.  Change your physical position or location.  If you’re sitting down, stand up and walk around.  Change locations. Go for a walk.  Call a trusted friend or coach.

Let go of what’s holding you back.  REFRAME, REFOCUS, REPOSITION and you will soar!