Success strategy: rules for decision making

Let me again start with what has become my favorite quote, from Albert Einstein, that: “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or a hostile universe.” Two choices, friendly or hostile. Assuming you choose “friendly,” and I can’t imagine wanting to choose “hostile,” what that means is that the universe is on your side, it’s like a friend, you can count on it, it has your back, it will provide you with whatever support you need or require. So the next question is: how to use this to plan your day. Give this approach from Chapter 30 of A Course in Miracles a try:

Spend some quiet time in the morning thinking about the kind of day you want. Don’t worry about how it will happen; your job is just to think about what you want, what the kind of day you want would look like. Then, tell yourself “there is a way in which this very day can happen just like that.”

The next step, and this will be the hard part for most of you, is to tell yourself: “Today I will make no decisions by myself.” This means that you are choosing not to be the judge of what to do and that you will not judge the situations where you will be called upon to make a response. Remember, it’s a friendly universe and it’s on your side. You must trust it will all unfold perfectly without any interference on your part.

Throughout the day, at any time you think of it and have a quiet moment for reflection, tell yourself again the kind of day you want; the feelings you would have, the things you want to happen to you, and the things you would experience, and say: “If I make no decisions by myself, this is the day that will be given me.”

Until you get good at this, there will surely be times when you make up your mind about something and then decide to ask what you should do. There will also be times when situations occur and you have a judgment about it. This will lead to any of a number of negative reactions like fear, anger, frustration and the like. When this occurs, remember once again the day you want and recognize that something has occurred that is not part of it. Then realize that you have likely asked a question by yourself and must have set an answer in your terms. So, say to yourself: “I have no question. I forgot what to decide.” This approach will cancel out the terms you have set and lets the answer show you what the question must have really been.

Finally, if you are so unwilling to receive you cannot even let your question go, you can begin to change your mind by saying this to yourself: “At least I can decide I do not like what I feel now.”  Having decided that you do not like the way you feel, what could be easier than to continue with: “and so I hope I have been wrong.”

Hopefully, having previously believed that your happiness depends upon you being right, you can now see that you would be better off if you were wrong. This tiny grain of wisdom will suffice to take you to the final step where you can say, in perfect honesty: “Perhaps there is another way to look at this. What can I lose by asking?”

In conclusion, why am I suggesting this approach and what’s in it for you? Most people have a picture of what needs to happen for them to be happy. So they spend their day trying to manipulate people and circumstances to fit that picture. Clear? And, it never works. This approach leads to frustration, resentment and anger. So allow yourself to be wrong about all of it. Just think about the kind of day you want and LET IT GO. Assuming you believe you live in a friendly universe, why not have faith in that universe and trust it to bring it to you. Then you can go on with your day and really be happy. No judgments, no manipulation, no decisions on your own, just an allowing of it to unfold. Doesn’t that sound a lot more peaceful?

Give it a try and let me know how it goes or ask any question you might have. And if all else fails, get a copy of ACIM and read all about it yourself.