Focus on your feelings

In all of my recent posts, in discussing the law of cause and effect, I have focused so far on the power of your thoughts. I now want to take this conversation to a deeper level and offer you this possibly new strategy to accelerate the process of manifesting your desires: focus on your feelings!

Think about it. Why do you want the things you desire? Why do people so much enjoy eating? Why do people drink, take drugs, participate in sports, watch TV, read a good book, have sex? There’s one answer to all of those questions – we’re looking for a feeling. And what’s the feeling we’re looking for? Mostly it’s to be happy, although there are other sub-feelings included in that.

So you do the things you do and you want the things you want because you think to do those things and have those things will make you happy. If you can get that simple fact, then the pathway to accelerating the process of manifesting your desires is to focus on the feelings you would have if all of your desires were your reality. Instead of focusing on the things, focus on the feelings. Actually, it would be best to forget entirely about the things and focus entirely on the feelings, since that’s what you really want anyway.

Now for those of you who want to know why everything works the way it works, including what I’m suggesting here, here’s a review of what we’ve been discussing:

1. You create everything in your life

2. You create with your thoughts and your thoughts create feelings.

3. Energetically, you attract those things that are consistent with your feelings.

4. So, in effect, as a creator, you will always experience the effects of your feelings. That’s the law of cause and effect in a nutshell.

5. If you’re not happy, you’ll create circumstances to support you in not being happy

6. If you’re happy, you’ll create circumstances to support you in being happy.

If you understand this, or not, how most people sabotage themselves is that they spend most of their time being unhappy because they focus on the things they want and don’t have and that makes them unhappy. It should be obvious from the above that this just results in creating more circumstances to support them in being unhappy.

If you want to stop the sabotage, focus on the feelings you would have if all your desires were your reality and see if that doesn’t attract to you all of those desires. If you’ve never thought about this or tried it out, give it a try and let me know what the results are. I’ll publish them to inspire us all and perhaps we can all support each other in creating the lives and businesses of our dreams.

How are you doing with your integrity?

I previously stated that successful people think differently than unsuccessful people – that’s the bottom line. So the only way to become successful is to learn to think the way successful people think. And, because they think differently, successful people also act differently than unsuccessful people. And truly successful people operate with integrity.

Most people don’t really understand what it means to have integrity. They think it just means being honest, or telling the truth, or doing what you said you will do. Actually, in the arena of performance, it means much more. My definition of integrity is “honoring yourself as your word.”

This means meaning what you say when you say it and after you say it. It means being responsible for what you say. Whether you realize it or not, people do listen to what you say and take what you say seriously. They expect you to act consistent with what comes out of your mouth.

Unfortunately, most people don’t take what they say very seriously. They say whatever seems to be the right thing to say in the moment. They make promises without really looking to see if they can or really intend to keep the promise. And when they don’t keep their promise, no big deal. That’s why they’re not successful.

Why is this so important? Don’t kid yourself. You develop a reputation with everyone you come into contact with. The people you interact with quickly figure out whether or not you can be counted on to keep your word and if you are responsible for what comes out of your mouth.

All things being equal, people do business with people they know, like and trust. What you may not know is that all things NOT being equal, people still do business with people they know, like and trust. PEOPLE LIKE AND TRUST PEOPLE WHO HAVE INTEGRITY. So having integrity is just plain smart and truly successful people have integrity.

What does this look like on the playing field of life? Be honest. Don’t try to cut corners. Give everything you do its due. Give everything you do your best. When you make a promise, keep it. When you say you’re going to do something, do it.

Always tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Don’t leave out any material details when you are in negotiations. Don’t manipulate the facts and don’t try to manipulate others. Be fair and play win/win. What makes this especially important is that . . .YOU LIKE YOU WHEN YOU HAVE INTEGRITY.

I have spent many years training sales people. When we encounter sales people who, for some reason, are struggling when they should really be soaring, it’s almost always because of an integrity issue. What might that look like?

They cheated someone and thought they got away with it. They lied to get a deal. They withheld crucial facts in a negotiation. They manipulated someone to get their way. They padded their expense account. They consistently show up late or miss appointments. The list is almost endless.

What we find when this occurs is that people stop themselves and don’t seem to know why. They can’t look at themselves in the mirror. They know they are not playing fair, and while they justify their behavior as being needed to get the sale, they know at a deep level it’s wrong.

And this doesn’t just happen in sales. It happens in every arena of life. People cheat on their taxes, their office or home is filled with clutter, their checkbook is not balanced or up to date, they owe people money and are not paying it, they have borrowed things they haven’t returned, they have tons of clothes in their closet they haven’t worn for years, the list goes on and on.

If you really want to experience success, get your act cleaned up. If, in reading any of the above items, you found yourself saying: that’s me, get your integrity cleaned up. You can always go back and clean up what you’ve done. It may take some time, you may have to eat some crow, but in the end it will be worth it.

What's your mindset: scarcity or abundance?

In part four of this series on success, I stated that there exists something called the law of cause and effect. Simply stated, you are the “cause,” and what manifests in your world is the “effect.” More specifically, your thinking and beliefs determine how you become the “cause” in your company and your life.

Last week I gave another example of how the law of cause and effect works. I suggested that the most predominant human emotion in our society is fear and the opposite of fear is faith, trust and optimism.

I reminded you that since all thoughts are creative, when you “come from” fear, what you will attract into your life is whatever you are fearful of. Your life experience will be that there are lots of things to worry about or be fearful of and all of your fears will seem very real.

One of the things we fear the most, even though it’s rarely noticed, is that we will not have enough. Another way of saying this is that we have a belief in scarcity. We are so driven to plan, control, manage and save because we have no faith that we will be taken care of. It’s all about scarcity thinking.

What’s the opposite of scarcity? Abundance. Successful people think abundantly. Unsuccessful people think scarcity. And, it’s always a self-fulfilling prophecy. The law of cause and effect at work.

If you “come from” scarcity, you’ll have a lot of scarcity in your life. If you “come from” abundance, you’ll have a lot of abundance in your life. Would you like to know why your net worth is what it is, why you have the amount of money in the bank that you have, and why you make the level of income you make? There are a lot of myths about these questions too. It has NOTHING to do with how smart you are, how hard you work, what your job is, or where you went to school or didn’t.

It’s all a function of your thinking. Imagine a continuum with scarcity-based thinking at one end and abundance-base thinking on the other. The amount of money (wealth) in your life EXACTLY corresponds to where your thinking is on this scarcity/abundance continuum. Which is why when a “rich” person has a downturn, or even goes bankrupt, it rarely takes very long before they are rich once again. And why people who win the lottery usually figure out pretty quickly how to lose all of the money they win.

In this out-of-control political season, there is so much conversation about “the rich,” paying their fair share, the 1%, etc. It’s like there’s something wrong with being rich and we need to take from the rich and give to the poor. Here’s what’s totally missed: rich people are rich because they think rich and poor people are poor because they have a belief in scarcity. And the only way that will EVER change is for people to move their thinking about money up the scarcity/abundance continuum.

If there has ever been a reason for you to have a coach, this is it. We have so many limiting beliefs about money it’s insane. The thought you’ll get it sorted out on your own is just not realistic. If you want to get serious about this, give us a call.